给晚熟的女孩子们

　　念书那会儿就不太喜欢莫言。觉得太原始野性，赤裸裸地难看。

　　很多年后的一天，我在逛书店的时候翻到《晚熟的人》，里面写：

　　“年轻的时候爱上什么都不为过，成熟的时候放弃什么都不为错。每个人终其一生都在寻找那个与自己灵魂相近的人，到后来才发现唯一契合的只有自己，本性善良的人都比较晚熟，而且被劣人催熟，后来虽然开窍了，但仍然善良与赤诚，不断寻找同类，最后变成一个孤独的人。”

　　读了好几遍。这个行为本身就让我有点怅然若

　　失。

　　当年不喜欢的部分，不外乎是人性里不愿意去面对的那一部分。

　　成长无可回避，我们不能永远是小孩子，就像我没有办法永远都走在去找外婆的那条绿荫盎然的小路上。我会长大，外婆会搬家，春夏的绿意，到秋天也会变成金黄色。

　　对女孩子来说，从十八岁到三十好几，中间的过程非常漫长。

　　我明白，或许你会经历迷茫、自卑，会去尝试、

　　失败、再尝试，会怀疑自己，会找不到方向。这

　　些我都切切实实地经历过。

　　但回忆起整个过程来，只要挺过去了都会觉得明

　　朗。

　　真正的快乐无法通过逃避获得，而是在认真地成长和主动的承担中获得。生活会带给你真实，眼界会带给你视野，身边来来去去的、沉沉浮浮的会让你去思考，然后珍惜。

　　每一次幡然醒悟都是在打怪升级，厚积薄发，破茧成蝶。

　　最重要的是，一定要记得喜欢每个阶段的你自己，保持善良、保有铠甲，并无畏孤独。

　　会更好的。

　　For late-maturing girls， I didn't like Mo Yan when I was studying. Feel too primitive wild， naked ugly. One day， many years later, I was browsing in a bookstore when I came across late bloomers, it says: “Nothing is too much to love when you are young, nothing is wrong to give up when you are mature.”. Everyone spends his whole life searching for that person who is close to his soul, only to find out later that the only person who fits in is himself. People with good natures mature later, and are pushed to mature by bad people. Later, although enlightened, they are still kind and sincere. They keep looking for others of their own kind, and eventually become a lonely person.” Read it several times. The act itself makes me a little lost. What I didn't like back then was nothing more than the part of humanity that I didn't want to face. Growth can not be avoided, we can not always be children, like I can not always walk in the grandmother to find the green path. I will grow up, grandma will move, Spring and Summer Green, to fall will become golden yellow. For Girls, from the age of eighteen to the mid-thirties, the process is very long. I understand, perhaps you will experience confusion, inferiority, will try, failure, try again, will doubt themselves, will not find the direction. I've actually experienced all of this. But looking back on the whole process, as long as the past will feel clear. True happiness can not be achieved through avoidance, but through serious growth and active commitment. Life will bring you truth, vision will bring you vision, side to side, ups and downs will let you think, and then cherish. Every time you wake up is in the fight against monsters upgrade, thick and thin hair, broken cocoon into a butterfly. Above all, remember to love yourself at every stage, to be kind, to be armored, and to be fearless of loneliness. It'll be better.