活出我们的结婚誓言

　　文 | 陈兆纪 

　　上个周六早晨，我见证了一对年轻情侣的神圣婚礼。九年前，他们都是大学三年级的学生，那时他们相遇相恋了。

　　他们恋爱的前几年中，新郎曾赴美深造。问题随着距离变远纷沓而至，他们的关系紧张起来，越来越不合了。当他毕业后终于返回家乡时，他们分手了。七年后，他们才再次走到一起。

　　在分开的这段期间，他们与神的个人关系都拉近了。正因如此，他们再次被带回到一起。

　　他们见证了是大能的上帝之手将他们破裂的关系缝合为一体。他们说道，若没有上帝的介入，他们不会成为夫妻。

　　我绝对相信他们所说的。

　　因此，当他们交换他们的誓词时特别的感人至深……

　　“我娶你做我的妻子/我嫁给你做我的丈夫，

　　从今时直到永远，

　　无论顺境或逆境，

　　富裕或贫穷，

　　疾病或健康，

　　我将无条件地爱你，尊重你，珍惜你。

　　不离不弃，忠实于你。

　　戴上这枚戒指，我们就结婚了。”

　　他们让我想起我和爱人结婚那天对彼此的誓言。那时我们用的是同样的誓词，我感谢上帝差不多31年的时间过去了，我可以说我们活出了那篇誓言的真谛。

　　当然，对于我们那并非童话故事。在我们的婚姻旅途中，我们经过顺境也走过困境。我们一起欢笑也一起痛哭，互相赞美也互相批评。对不同的视角和观点，我们有一致的时候也有异议的时候，有争辩也有支持。在病痛中我们相濡以沫。我们学习彼此相爱，互相尊重。

　　在我们的婚姻旅程中，我和爱人刻意地努力成就上帝为彼此配合的伴侣角色。怀着敬畏的心，我们祈求他的帮助来实现那个角色。

　　我相信我们婚姻成功主要依靠于我们对上帝的信任，他帮助我们遵守起初我们在他面前立下的誓言。

　　如果你想你们的婚姻幸福蒙福，不要忘记你们互相许下的每一句誓言和每一个誓词。祈求上帝帮助你们不仅记住它们，而且要每天活出那些承诺。你将成为一个伟大的爱人！

　　陈兆纪

　　Livingout our marriage vow

　　Last Saturday morning, I witness the holy matrimony of a young couple. They met in their junior college days and became a pair then. That was 9 years ago.

　　In the early years of their relationship, the groom left for further studies in the US. The difficulties associated with their long-distance relationship strained them. They grew apart and when he finally returned home after his graduation, they broke up. That was after 7 years courting each other.

　　During the period of separation, both drew closer in their personal relationship with God. And through that, they were brought back together again.

　　They testified that theirs was an union sewed by the hands of the Almighty God. They said that without God's intervention, they would not have made it as a couple.

　　I absolutely believe them.

　　As such, it was especially meaningful and poignant when they exchanged their vows.....

　　"I take you to be my husband/wife,to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, or for worse,for richer, or for poorer,in sickness, and in health,to love and to honorand to cherish unconditionally.Forsaking all others, I will be faithful to you. And with this ring, I thee wed."

　　They reminded me of Michelle's and my vows to one another on our wedding day. We used the same words then and I thank God that after almost 31 years, I can say that we have lived out the essence of that vow.

　　It was certainly not a fairy tale story for us. We went through good as well as difficult times in our journey. We laughed and cried together, praised as well as criticized each other. We agreed and disagreed, argued and supported different perspectives and opinions. We cared for each other in moments of sickness and pain. We learned to love and to honor one another.

　　Michelle and I made deliberate efforts throughout our marital journey to fill the role as God's chosen companion for each other. With reverence, we asked for His help to fulfill that role.

　　I believe that the success of our relationship was primarily hinged on our belief in God, who helped us keep our vows that we made before Him in the first place.

　　If you want bliss and happiness in your marital relationship, do not forget each and every word in your vow to one another. Ask God to help you not only to remember them, but to act out the commitments daily. You will become a great lover!

　　teven

　　翻译：小蕾

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